Do I Fit In? You Do!

It seems like every other message I get starts with a woman explaining “I don’t really fit in here”, or “I’m kind of the odd one out in this group.” Women say they work out with us “even though”...they don’t have kids yet, or they are already a grandma, they are blind or hard of hearing, or they’d rather gain than lose weight.

How strange it is that most women think of themselves as a misfit! Who decides if this is true? And more importantly, why do we all want to fit in so badly? 

So many women almost apologize for even thinking about joining us. When this happens, I methodically start typing the same answer over and over again: you absolutely belong here, come and join us! And it’s not because I don’t have principles and want to have as many paying GoMomGo members as possible. I say this, because I honestly believe it to be true. YOU BELONG HERE! :)

I’ve thought a lot about this one odd issue. Why does it bother me so much when I get messages like this? During my 6 years managing groups for women, I have never met a single person who was a misfit or who didn’t benefit from our exercise community. 

How could they? Each of us is unique and irreplaceable so you simply cannot be a misfit! In GoMomGo there is nowhere to “fit in” or “not fit in.” There is no “them” and “me.” Because guess what? We are all different: small, big, blond, brunette, slow, fast, skinny and curvy. It’s true that we’re all unique but that is what makes us such fascinating women!

The “perfect ideal” that society pressures us to fit into, is not attainable. Nobody is perfect! And if you feel the pressure to fit in it is only because you fear the rejection or ridicule of this toxic world. So we decide to try to blend in. We sacrifice our uniqueness and step onto the road to uniformity. We somehow think that if we eat the same foods, shop at the same stores, have the same cosmetic surgeries, and follow the fashion influencers, we’ll be better and “they” will love us, or we will finally love ourselves. In a sense, we just don’t want to feel like misfits anymore.

But I’m here to go against these trends! And I urge all of you to come with me. I want GoMomGo to be a place where everyone feels they belong. I envision it as a community where everyone is proudly unique and happy being who they are. Let’s embrace our unique differences. If our inspiring individuality makes us misfits, then let’s reclaim the word! This is the group where a bunch of lovely misfits become Miss Fits! ;)